The other day I was approached by a young lady that wanted some solid advice. She told me how everyone that was around her tried to take control of her life, and it was almost like she had no physical control. She said that she was lost. I can tell that she was genuine because the look that she had on her face said it all.
It was a look of desperation, and I could also tell that she made what others had to say rule her. This was what also caused her sadness, and constantly she kept saying how she wished she knew what to do. Since, she asked me for my opinion and for some solid advice that was exactly what I gave her. I didn't want to lie to here because given the fact that she was already feeling pain I felt like there was no need for me to beat around the bush, and try to give her false hope.
I told her the honest truth, and made her know that she needed to develop a real backbone. I made her know that she should have some "say so" in her own life; I also made her know that she needed to start speaking up. I made her know that if she made someone else control her life then it would not go in the direction that she wanted it to go in, but instead it will only go in the direction that this other person wanted it to go in.
I didn't want to give her no cookie-cutter talk. Instead I wanted it to be straight to the point and as straight-forward as possible. I think too many people will let someone lie to them, and tell them what they wanted to hear; instead of what they need to hear, or what they must hear. Personally I have to always give people my complete honest answers whether they like it, or not because I feel like it won't be helpful at all if I was to lie to them. In fact I think that it's better to give no advice at all, if you're going to just lie. Being real, and saying that you're keeping it real is two different things, and I like to say that I try to be real, and keep it real all of the times because I think people will respect a real person over someone that will constantly lie because they feel it will be helpful...
When everything was over it was good that this young lady felt better, and she even told me that out of everyone that she went to asking for advice I actually came off as being very honest, and didn't beat around the bush with her, and she will use what I tell her to uplift her life. I was thrilled knowing that what I told her will hopefully help uplift her, and I will definitely keep you all updated on her progress whenever she tells me how she's doing... To read a great book that will help you take complete control of your life I highly recommend that you click this link http://amzn.com/1475122047
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